What is resilience?
As parents, most of us want to protect our children. How helpful is this though? After all, it’s a fact of life that none of us are in control of events, so when there are bumps in the road it’s how we handle them that defines us. This is what developing resilience is all about. Life is an ongoing process of learning and adapting, and people who go furthest in life are those who have developed the resilience that helps them respond well to setbacks.
How does this resilience course help?
Our resilience course teaches children that, as long as it’s handled properly, failure can be a good thing. Simply shielding our children from failure, rather than exposing them to its possibilities, isn’t helpful to the adults they will eventually become.
We sometimes see this with young people who have huge natural ability for a particular sport. Success early on is guaranteed until, for whatever reason, a match or race is lost and the narrative of endless, inevitable success is suddenly shattered.
The reality is that often it’s not the preternaturally gifted wunderkind who triumphs in later life, but their peer who was less successful earlier on, and so was constantly challenged to find new ways to win. They have had experience of reflecting on (and reworking), their strategy and tactics. Your child will learn how to adopt this approach on this course.
Being allowed to learn from failure, rather than simply learning how to avoid it, makes for a much more effective, healthy learning environment too. All of us, whether we’re at school college, university or in employment, do our best work when we feel safe to make mistakes. On this course you’ll learn to stay open to being playful, curious and questioning.
What can you expect from the course?
We can run this course for individuals or in groups. This is a 1-day course, and because we adapt the core content to suit the audience, it’s suitable for younger children aged 9 and 10 years upwards. We’d recommend children attend with their parents, not least because you can then discuss what you’ve learned with them (children aged 15 and older are welcome to attend on their own). If we think it’s going to be helpful and appropriate, we may recommend follow-up counselling sessions.
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“Part of resilience is about developing self-compassion. There are going to be times when things don’t go our way. That’s just life. Those of us who are kind to ourselves when we do fail – and each of us is guaranteed to fail at some point – tend to go further, because we’re creating an atmosphere where we feel safe, so we can keep taking risks. And that’s how we grow.”
Richard Reid – CEO, Therapist & Coaching Psychologist